“non-autistic people can hurt us, even in the safest of spaces. Even from within a neurodivergent majority. Even with nine words.”

This post describes the allistic-autistic power imbalance so very accurately. I can imagine with disgusting clarity the precise tone of voice and attitude with which Amythest was addressed, and how completely deflating and triggering it must have been. Adult autistics being autistic are consistently infantalised and, because infants are not treated as autonomous beings with… Continue reading “non-autistic people can hurt us, even in the safest of spaces. Even from within a neurodivergent majority. Even with nine words.”

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Choosing to act allistically…

Yesterday, somebody said to me: “unlike those with Tourette’s you at least have a choice about how normal you seem in public…” This post explores the tense relationship that I have with the idea of choice when it comes to ‘seeming normal’. To what extent is being visibly autistic (or not) a choice? Tourettes involves have… Continue reading Choosing to act allistically…

Reframing the notion of “accommodations” for autistic people

As autistic people, in a world established for non-autistic (“allistic”) people, we sometimes believe that the "accommodations" which we require to engage with the world are burdensome, and that others are very much “doing us a favour” in providing them. And, indeed, providing these accommodations requires work from other people. I will not deny that… Continue reading Reframing the notion of “accommodations” for autistic people