Neurodivergent vulnerability?

How often do strangers/acquaintances raise the subject of your ‘vulnerability’, or ‘needs’ without your invitation? For those openly neurodivergent among us, I'd wager (based on personal experience) that it happens fairly often -- usually upon a casual disclosure of our divergence. Most of these strangers/acquaintances mean well: they might be signalling acceptance of our potential… Continue reading Neurodivergent vulnerability?

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Five Autistic Social Skills

Five Autistic Social Skills So often we hear that being autistic means to have poor social skills. I argue that autistic people have lots of social skills, but just different ones to non-autistic people. Here are what I consider to be five autistic social skills/attributes, in which non-autistic people are deficient in comparison: The use… Continue reading Five Autistic Social Skills

Poem about autistic coercion– “I would rather…”

I would rather your hands were still, Traumatised hands, dissociated hands. I would rather they were muted, dead, Lumps of flesh, perfect for my necrophiliac Hand holding.   I would rather your body stayed centre Repressed body, ingesting its pain, Swallowing its joy, until feelings become Poisons, until your body attacks itself Inside out.  … Continue reading Poem about autistic coercion– “I would rather…”

“non-autistic people can hurt us, even in the safest of spaces. Even from within a neurodivergent majority. Even with nine words.”

This post describes the allistic-autistic power imbalance so very accurately. I can imagine with disgusting clarity the precise tone of voice and attitude with which Amythest was addressed, and how completely deflating and triggering it must have been. Adult autistics being autistic are consistently infantalised and, because infants are not treated as autonomous beings with… Continue reading “non-autistic people can hurt us, even in the safest of spaces. Even from within a neurodivergent majority. Even with nine words.”

Choosing to act allistically…

Yesterday, somebody said to me: “unlike those with Tourette’s you at least have a choice about how normal you seem in public…” This post explores the tense relationship that I have with the idea of choice when it comes to ‘seeming normal’. To what extent is being visibly autistic (or not) a choice? Tourettes involves have… Continue reading Choosing to act allistically…

Reframing the notion of “accommodations” for autistic people

As autistic people, in a world established for non-autistic (“allistic”) people, we sometimes believe that the "accommodations" which we require to engage with the world are burdensome, and that others are very much “doing us a favour” in providing them. And, indeed, providing these accommodations requires work from other people. I will not deny that… Continue reading Reframing the notion of “accommodations” for autistic people

Quick thought: Semantics of abuse language.

Content note: I am discussing the semantics of abuse language, so could be triggering for abuse survivors. It occurred to me yesterday why I find it hard to talk about childhood trauma. There is a very interesting and disturbing semantic difference between the ways in which different sorts of abuse of children are described. 'Emotional'… Continue reading Quick thought: Semantics of abuse language.

Quick thought: “Neurotribes”

Neurotribes is written by a neurotypical man, who basically says: "Do not kill, abuse, and try to "cure" autistic people, because some of them are good at computers and science" OK, compare it to a (hypothetical) book written by a straight man: "Do not kill, abuse, and try to "cure" gay people, because some of… Continue reading Quick thought: “Neurotribes”